You're the best friend a chick could have.

My head has been all over the place today. Like, you can't even comprehend how badly.
I'm not sure what to think, what to feel, what I know and what I don't, what's real and what's fake, who's right and who's wrong, who I should trust and who I should apologise to, my head is just a mess.

It's times like these when you feel most alone that you could really do with a good friend that you can talk to. Up until today, I wasn't even 100% sure that I had any, but my friend Bob gave me the best words of advice I've ever gotten tonight, and managed to squeeze a few tears out of me without having to be within a mile of me.

We spoke one Facebook, and this is how it went.

Me: I finally managed to get rid of that guy. Yeah, he kind of helped by talking to some other chick behind my back (and of course it would be as I finally start to feel something for him) and I just realised, I have never been anywhere near a guy who neither cheated on me or left me for someone else and I've come to the conclusion that I must be the problem but no one has ever told me what I'm doing wrong so how am I supposed to do anything about it if people just screw me around OMG help me Bob!? Put my mind at rest please, even if you have to bullshit me about how it's "not me, they're the dickheads" or crap like that.

Bob:  Okay Tash, I should have known something was up with the mention of romance movies, ice cream and crying. Look Tash, I think your problem lies in your current taste in men. So far all I've known you with is losers. Guys who ask you to marry them after meeting you what? Twice? I think what you seriously need is to aim higher, and not jump on any opportunity that comes you way with all your might. Do what I do.... play it cool, be selective. You may not be in a relationship all too often, but the peace of mind and satisfaction you gain from solitude is far more rewarding that trying to force two ends together that won't meet Feelin' for you here Tash, I really am. x

Me:  Thank you Bob. Probably the best pep talk ever. x
Look don't take this the wrong way or anything but if it's true what Jay said and you liked me around the time I started dating him, then I made the wrong choice to be honest.
If I end up with a dude like you someday, how could I complain?
And take that as a compliment XD
You've always given me damn good advice and you're the only person who can cheer me up no matter how crappy I feel XD
So thanks for that little message, made me smile :')

Bob:  You're welcome Tash, anytime. You have been known to make me smile (and even laugh) on the isolated occassion :P And okay, fine, I did begin to find myself warming to your charm, but then I realised that you were too special to mess everything up with by entering into a relationship and very soon I began to see you like a sister or female cousin rather than a random thing to perv on when you walked by :P

And I know he would have said the exact same words to me in person. That's what makes him such a good friend, unlike most people, he doesn't bullshit you from behind a computer screen. What you see is what you get, and I haven't found nearly as many things to complain about with this guy as I have with most. Ladies, if you ever have the privilege of meeting this man, he's one to keep an eye on.